Imaam Abu Hamid al-Tusi al-Ghazali1 -
‘Umar bin al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) said:“If one of you is blessed with affection from his brother, he should hold onto that as tightly as possible, as it is quite rare for one to be blessed with this.”
2 - ‘Umar (رضي الله عنه) also said:“Nobody is given anything, besides his Islaam, better than a righteous friend.”
3 - ‘Ali bin Abi Talib (رضي الله عنه) said:“Tend to your brothers, as they are your sustenance in this world and the next. Do you not hear the saying of the people of Hell: {”Now, we have neither intercessors nor close friends to help us!”} [ash-Shu’ara’; 100-1]?”
4 - ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (رضي الله عنه) said:“By Allaah, if I fasted all day without eating, prayed all night without sleeping, spent all of my wealth in the Path of Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى), died the day I died, but, had no love in my heart for those who obey Allaah, and no hatred in my heart for those who disobey Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى), none of this would benefit me in the least.”
5 - ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (رضي الله عنه) said:“If a man were to stand for seventy years, worshipping Allaah between the Yemeni Corner and the Maqam of Ibrahim (at the Ka’bah), he would still be resurrected on the Day of Judgement with those whom he loved.”
6 - Ibn as-Sammak (رحمه الله) said, on his deathbed:“O Allaah! You Know that, even if I had disobeyed You, I loved those who obeyed You! So, make this for me a means of nearness to You!”
7 - Mujahid (رحمه الله) said:“Those who love each other for Allaah’s Sake, when they smile at each other, their sins fall from each other, just as the leaves fall from a tree before the winter.”
8 - al-Ghazali (رحمه الله) said, commenting on the hadith “The strongest bond of faith is to love for Allaah and to hate for Allaah”:“Because of this, it is a must that a person have enemies that he hates for Allaah’s Sake, just as he has friends and brothers that he loves for Allaah’s Sake.”
9 - Abu Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه) said:“The slave will be brought between the Hands of Allaah - the Exalted - on the Day of Resurrection, and Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) will Say to him: ‘Did you love one of my awliya’, so that I can join you with him?’”
10 - al-Hasan al-Basri (رحمه الله) said:“Being harsh against a fasiq brings you closer to Allaah - the Exalted.”From ‘Ihya’ ‘Ulum ad-Din’ (2/195 onwards) Iqtida’ by Imaam al-Ghazali (رحمه الله)
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asalamo alikum,
‘Umar (رضي الله عنه) also said:“Nobody is given anything, besides his Islaam, better than a righteous friend.”
i like this statement. i'm trying to improve day by day now after recent turn in my life. i have seen a girl around college who covers. is it okay if i ask her if she would be interested in marriage? i do not want to go down the road of gf as i know better now but it is hard in this atmosphere also i do not know how i would tell my parents.
As salamu alaikkum my brother in islam. May Allah azza wa jal reward you and enable you to stay steadfast in the deen of Al-Islam, ameen. Surely it is Allah T'ala who guides, and whomsoever He guides, none can misguide. If your really sincere about marriage, then you must take into account all the necessary things that you need to support a woman as your wife (financially, and anything else she may want). You must know every right that a woman has in Islam, and will have to make sure if you can cope up with that. And if you want to marry her solely for the sake of her deen and how pious she is, then know that this marriage is a blessing from Allah subhana wa t'ala. If you think that you will be able to financially support her, then you need to talk to your parents first and foremost. Try your best to convince them, for the act of marriage means you have completed half of your obligations in Al-Islam. If your parents agree, then propose to her in a way that is beloved to Allah subhana wa t'ala, a way that is halal. So the whole "getting to know her" is not a good idea. You need to talk to her father/uncle/brother (or whoever her guardian is) and tell him that you want to take the sister's hand in marriage. And in shaAllah if the sister too agrees (and you agree to her mahr), then everything must be going fine, by the will of Allah subhana wa T'ala.
As you pointed out at that statement of 'Umar (رضي الله عنه ), indeed it is beautiful and true to every word. So keep close to righteous friends. Surely two men who meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah T'ala, has their place under the shade of Allah azza wa jal's throne on the day of Judgement. I pray that Allah T'ala makes it easy upon you, ameen.
And make dua' for your brother in islam :)
Just forgot to add, that you need to try and talk to your parents in the light of Islam; try to tell them how it is important to get married, and how it helps you to lower your gaze etc. Try to tell them the importance of getting married at young age (which many asian parents neglect). We live in a society where nakedness is all around us, May Allah save us from it, ameen. The second you look out from your window, you know what is coming. Tell them how it is very hard to lower your gaze from evil around you. And from my point of view, if you would convince the parent your more closer to and talk to more often (either your father or mother), and get that parent to convince the other. For example if you talk very often to your mother, and your very tight with your mum, then you can talk to her first, and then get her to talk to your dad, or ask her to help you talk to your dad. A technique mostly used by the boys :)
As salamu 'alaikkum wa rahmathullahi wa barakathuhu
Salam. I think this blog is very good mashallah i was told by a friend to look at it so i went through old months and have learnt alot. This blog should continue going with the people from the start to now as it is a great source of knowledge.
How comes everyone seems to want to get married all of a sudden =s (not that there's anything wrong with that ) LoL but i'm starting think it's the new trend round colleges 'getting married' =)
I've noticed that trend to. I suppose it is better than committing haram. It is better to marry than to be indulged in those unlawful relationships.
It is obligatory upon a person to marry if he finds it very difficult to lower his gaze, and if he has no means to do so, then he must fast... It maybe a new trend, but alhamdulillah it is a trend which Allah T'ala loves :)
It is obligatory upon a person to marry if he finds it very difficult to lower his gaze, and if he has no means to do so, then he must fast... It maybe a new trend, but alhamdulillah it is a trend which Allah T'ala loves :)
Asalaams bro I pray allah keeps you steadfast on the straight path. Good advice by the brothers/sisters. How you doing now?
One thing I'd like to add is that this may merely be a passing attraction or as others may put it as a 'crush'. However if it is otherwise and you are ready for such a responsiblity, I would say go for it and Inshallah propose through the halal means. As marriage is highly recommended in Islam and is also the completion of half your deen.
subhanAllah
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